Mystery Solved with a Frozen Treat

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On the banks of Lake Elise

I saw you on a lily pad

Smiling, sitting Indian style

With your arms reaching up and out

I reached to you and was happy

But then the sun rose

To tear-filled eyes

Dreaming again

thank you for the whoosh moment Kathy Adamson Romaniello

thank you for the Lake elise whoosh moment Kathy Adamson Romaniello

on the happy banks

on the happy banks

It remains a bit of a mystery how my son died that night and it’s a mystery how one can be happy and sad at the same time. It’s complicated and twisted when it comes to grief. The obvious is that one who has lost their person will always have a sense of sadness. That cannot be changed. With time, however, the sadness becomes more manageable and doesn’t interfere with day-to-day activities. Is there an occasional meltdown? You betcha, but those episodes are much more short-lived and usually triggered by, at least in my case, fatigue. A good night’s sleep and coping skills are restored. What’s your trigger? Identify it and try to avoid it.

so unlike him this photo always cracks me up

so unlike him this photo always cracks me up…thank you Van Sant family for this photo

Welcome happiness. It’s a choice. It’s all around us. See it in a stranger’s smile, smell it in the garden, feel it in a warm embrace, hear it in a song. To choose happiness and to feel joy is an option we all have. It celebrates your person. Reach up and out and embrace it.

a typical day at the beach with Andrew, Tyler and William

a typical day at the beach with Andrew, Tyler and William

And speaking of a meltdown, what a warm summer it has been. Want to know what makes me happy this time of year? It’s ice cream, gelato, sorbet, sherbet and well you get the picture….oh, wait-did I say frozen snicker bars? Yes, all kinds of frozen treats put a smile on my face. It’s no mystery that to make a tasty freeze only a blender is required.

Vitamix frozen beauty

Vitamix frozen beauty

My garden (which always makes me happy) is overgrown with cucumbers. Did you know that cucumbers have a prickly surface? I had no idea until I grew my own. Ouch-really prickly! And did you know that the borage flower tastes like cucumbers? How convenient that they are both ready for picking and eating at the same time (as long as you don’t use chemicals on your plants). Add some fresh pineapple, a few fridge staples and a high speed blender and we are in sweet frozen heaven. Happy summer-no ice cream maker necessary.

fresh cucumbers from the garden

fresh cucumbers from the garden

Fresh Pineapple Cucumber Sorbet

2 cups fresh pineapple chunks, frozen

1 cucumber, peeled, seeded, cut into chunks, frozen

½ cup silken tofu

½ cup plain Greek yogurt

2 tablespoons agave (adjust to your own desired sweetness)

1-teaspoon fresh lime juice

1 or 2 leaves fresh mint, optional

Place all ingredients into blender* in order given. Start on low speed and increase until mixture is smooth and well blended. Serve immediately.

Note: If you own a Vitamix use the Frozen Dessert setting

Note #2: if you prefer to drink your frozen concoctions just add some soy milk or juice to the blender and mix to your favorite consistency

no borage-use mint and another pretty flower for garnish

no borage-use mint and another pretty flower for garnish

A View From Will’s Bench & Fresh Strawberry Limoncello Martini

Congratulations, Julia and Van Sant Family

Congratulations, Julia and Van Sant Family

Every now and then it is a blessing to see the view from Will’s Bench though someone else’s lens and heart. Today’s photos are from a dear friend and one who William loved very much. Thank you, Liz, for stopping by Lake Elise on Memorial Day weekend and sharing these photos with all of us.

initial rock from Will's favorite spot in the Adirondaks

heart shaped initial rock from Will’s favorite spot in the Adirondaks

as she sat a fish came to visit---the perfect sign from him

as she sat a fish came to visit—the perfect sign from him

Will's Bench

And for Julia, his “little sister” this celebration drink is for you. Congratulations baby girl in a job well done at Washington & Lee. I know William would have been super proud of you and all your accomplishments. Cheers! “Oh, the places you will go” ~ Dr. Seuss

fresh berries from the garden

fresh berries from the garden

Frozen Strawberry Limoncello Martini

1½ oz Vodka (Grey Goose/Ketel One)

1½ oz Limoncello

1 tbsp fresh lemon juice

2 tsp agave or sweeten to taste

½ cup frozen strawberries

Buzz it all up in the blender*

Note: to freeze fresh strawberries, wash and stem them and lay out in a single layer on a foil lined tray. Freeze and then store in a zippered plastic bag.

*Vitamix has changed my life