Grief Inspired Sandwich That’s Italian

fresh mozzarella, proscuitto and roasted red peppers

fresh mozzarella, proscuitto and roasted red peppers

It’s been 4 years, 4 months and 14 days since William died. I have grown leaps and bounds through this grief experience, but surprisingly still learning how to deal. I must be a slow study or maybe, just maybe, this is typical of the grief process when one loses a bright light in their life.

goodness knows what he was about to do to his sister

goodness knows what he was about to do to his sister

At this stage, most days are typically filled with happy thoughts of William. The boy was a crack-up in most situations and filled with fun surprises. He was a double-dog dare me kind of guy who constantly kept us entertained with his antics. Swallow a live fish? Sure, no problem. Jump into an ice covered lake? He wouldn’t think twice. Dress in camo, soldier crawl the lawn and crash a neighbor’s party hiding under their deck? All in a day of the life of William. These memories just make me smile or sometimes laugh out loud. I am so grateful to have them.

the annual plunge into a frozen Lake Quassapaug

the annual plunge into a frozen Lake Quassapaug

On the other hand, this summer brought some surprisingly dark days that I did not quite understand. After watching a wedding video of a mother-son dance I was a complete mess. What the hell? I did not even know these people, yet watching that groom smile into his mother’s eyes I knew I wanted some of that and could not have it. And then there are those college graduations. Those are the memories with William that I want so bad, but never will have. I only, this week, recognized that those are my triggers. It’s what I did not get to have with William rather than what I did have that causes me grief.

don't even want to know what he lit on fire

don’t even want to know what he lit on fire

It’s just sad until I remember that I did have a dance with him the night before he graduated high school. I am holding on tight to the night he agreed to hold my hand while I twirled around him. The poor guy was on crutches at the time, but that didn’t stop him from smiling into my eyes and giving his mama this beautiful memory.

Oh, happy day his high school diploma in hand

Oh, happy day his high school diploma in hand

It’s 64 days, 16 hours and 6 minutes until I compete in the sandwich category at the World Food Championships. Trying to reign in on just a few ideas has been difficult until William popped into my head. William had a favorite deli-cious sandwich. Whenever he was home we would jump into the car and make our way over to Waterbury’s Avventura Market and Deli. He adored their “Avventura Special” which was a grilled ciabatta of mozzarella, prosciutto and roasted red peppers. Thanks for the help, William. I know you are still here cheering me on.sandwich

The way one layers a sandwich is a personal matter. I leave it up to you to play with these ingredients and add or subtract as much meat, cheese, pesto and peppers as you like. Make your own perfect and inspired sandwich creation. When it comes from your heart it is guaranteed delicious.

Memory of the Avventura Special Sandwich

1 small clove garlic

3/4 cup packed basil leaves

¼ cup fresh celery leaves

2 tablespoons walnut oil

1-teaspoon fresh lemon juice

¼ cup toasted walnuts

¼ cup grated parmesan cheese

½ teaspoon sugar

¼ teaspoon kosher salt

2 ciabatta rolls, split

1 ball fresh mozzarella, sliced

6 slices prosciutto

1 red bell pepper, roasted, peeled, seeded, sliced

2 teaspoons hickory smoked balsamic vinegar or plain balsamic syrup

shredded fresh basil

With food processor running drop garlic through feed tube and process until finely minced. Add basil, celery leaves and oil; pulse until combined. Add lemon juice, walnuts, parmesan, sugar and salt; blend until smooth scraping down sides of bowl, if needed. Spread generous amount of pesto evenly on bottom half of each roll. On top of the pesto evenly layer desired amount of the mozzarella, prosciutto and peppers. Drizzle peppers with balsamic, sprinkle with some shredded basil and cover sandwich with roll top. Gently press sandwich together. Grill sandwich in a lightly greased Panini maker or on a griddle, pressing with a weight, for 2 to 3 minutes per side or until golden brown.

Genovese Basil: gotta love my garden

Genovese Basil: gotta love my garden

26 thoughts on “Grief Inspired Sandwich That’s Italian

  1. I never saw that picture at the frozen lake. What a nut, lol!

    You can’t lose with that sandwich.

    • He was hilarious and always took a few prisoners with him. He could talk most people into doing anything. You will love the sandwich.

  2. After a sleepless night contemplating the beginning of another school year without Aidan, this post was in my inbox this morning. Right now the “what should have beens” overshadow the amazing things that we shared. Thank you again for sharing your story.

    • You are following a similar path to mine. I know where you are and where you will go. It’s never going to be easy, but keep celebrating Aidan and I think you will find just a little bit of peace….but I won’t lie–it’s never going to be over for us <3—we loved them to much and we loved being their mom

  3. I admire how you can get through your grief with happy memories and thoughts of William. Every time I read one of your childhood stories of him it reminds me to cherish every moment with my kids. Great sandwich! You are going to do great at the World Food Championships!

    • You are one of the best moms I know. You light up when you speak of your children; it just comes naturally, so I will simply remind you of that and thanks for your encouraging comments.

  4. Lisa- another inspired recipe from your kitchen! I have always admired your strength and grace. Best to you-

  5. The sandwich sounds delicious and so is the wonderful story behind it. God Bless You, Lisa. ❤

  6. I enjoy reading about Will and the special times you shared together. I wonder whether he inherited his playfulness from mom , dad or both of you? I can’t wait to see you at WFC in a few months!

    • I think most of his mischief came from his dad…I only recently became a bit daring. Can’t wait to hang out with you in our Florid palace

  7. Your blog posts always move me, Lisa. This is another awesome creation that William has inspired and it will be a great entry at the WFC! I’m still hoping to go, and I’m still trying, but I haven’t qualified yet. We’ll see if it happens! I wish you the very best!

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